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THe Inner Child Syndrome (A Cry From WIthin)

Let hypnotherapy calm this inner voice.

• Do you feel vulnerable and very little when faced with authority figures like your boss?
• Does your inner voice say “I am scared; let’s get out of here”?
• Have you often felt yourself becoming so shy that even when given a compliment you shy away?
• Do you find it difficult to believe that friends or others can really love you and accept you?
• Do you catch yourself saying “I can never be as good as she/he is”?

The inner child’s voice is in every one of us. It is often repressed behind a strong, superior/arrogant exterior, behind social anxieties or self-awkwardness. For the lucky ones it is a very excited, funny, exploratory and happy voice- ever wished you were like that bloke who can look so cool and make people like him instantly? Ever wondered how that woman can look so full of energy and excitement that she lightens the atmosphere of the whole room? These are people with a very happy, relaxed and explorative/eager inner child’s voice.

As we grow up we often go in a trance state (just watch kids around you day-dreaming, staring at the T.V. or not hearing your voice despite all your callings) where we wonder about the world, our role in it, our place in it and we interpret our parental figures’ messages with our little minds. Because we are in a deep reflective state whatever interpretations we make as children become part of our unconscious mind (Go to “paradox of the unconscious mind) and settles down there to control and lead us from there.

Take as an example: the little child that observes his parents are ever so busy that they rarely talk to him. He gets everything material but no attention. In his small child’s mind the interpretation goes “I must be very ugly; I am not important; I must be doing something wrong for them not to love me” That child grows into an adult and his conscious, adult mind is very knowledgeable, he is successful at work and has many friends. But he does not allow people to come too close to him; as soon as he feels that someone is starting to like him a lot (or vice versa) he breaks the relationship.

WHY?

Because although his adult mind tells him he deserves it his inner child’s voice says “he/she will lose interest if he/she gets to know you better”, “you have to keep people at a distance because they will know you are no good if you let them come too close!”

The scenario can take different shapes but the pattern is the same: If the inner child’s voice is insecure, vulnerable and miserable you will find yourself always having a tug of war between your adult and child self. You may not admit it publicly but you know it, you fight against that vulnerable, weakened side of yours, but it always win.

How do you know it? The inner child voice expresses itself in moodiness, sadness, fears, phobias and often leads people to feel panicky in situation because all it wants is to protect itself. You will recognise in many situations, despite your self-reassurances you still panic when it comes to make social relations, or a commitment, or take a flight for example….

In Hypnotherapy we believe that the inner child’s voice wins most of the time because it the voice in the unconscious mind and thereby it is more in control. The conscious mind can fight but not win against the subconscious mind. There is a beautiful technique called “meeting the inner child” in Hypnotherapy, among others, that helps many clients face that inner child part (which is obsolete by now; its interpretations are obsolete to your present life) and help that part to change and becomes more secure, explorative, risk taking and eager about experiences.

The more this inner growth takes place in the subconscious mind the more my clients feel relieved and encouraged by their inner voice to be themselves; they start bringing out their inner potential which they knew was there but repressed behind the inner voice’s insecurities/fears. You have heard friends/colleagues say “I can do this business, this deal; I want to do it but the moment I think of this meeting tomorrow I fear I will fail. I feel I don’t deserve it and it’s so weird when I want it so much!” That is the inner voice triggering the insecurity feelings in front of the unknown or the old messages of failure if that what it learnt about itself in childhood!

Hypnotherapy helps you access your unconscious mind and change this inner child part let your adult self reclaim the decision-making of your life with inner child part becoming more happy-go-lucky!!