Anger Management/ Aggressive Feelings

Anger is normal and a very healthy way to say that we are hurt or frustrated; at least it is better that bottling it all up and the becoming aggressive because we are feeling very heavy!

When we say some people need treatment for Anger Management we mean that they need help to EXPRESS THEIR ANGER IN CONSTRUCTIVE WAYS. I have had many clients over the years who have expressed a fear of losing all ability to be angry if they come for Hypnotherapy. What Hypnotherapy will help with is simply programming the mind to process the anger in manageable doses and manageable ways both for the client and his/her family members or colleagues.

I am sure we all know somebody who cannot control their anger and just blows off out of proportion at simple things:

• They feel under attack if they are told they have done something wrong.
• they scream, shout, swear without any consideration for people around
• they start shaking, stammering even choking with their raging feelings.
• Afterwards they have either not much recollection of all they said or they feel ashamed of it.
• they will be the first one to tell you: IT FEELS AS IF SOMEONE ELSE TAKES CONTROL OF THEIR MIND AND THEY CANNOT STOP THE ANGER!!

The same happens with aggression: the individual feels under attack and retaliates too strongly verbally and physically.

The fact is that the individual knows very well he/she should not behave that way and is even quite helpless with his/her own aggressiveness/anger.

Hypnotherapy works marvellously well in these cases for two major reasons:

1. In Hypnotherapy we are working with unconscious mind( read paradox of the unconscious mind) where all our instinctive reactions have taken roots and angry/aggressive people often feel helpless once those triggers get touched upon. they have forgotten when they learnt unconsciously to blow up if someone say “you are being silly” or if they just imply it. the trigger has been programmed in the inner mind and gets set up automatically.

   What a Hypnotherapist will do is access the inner mind and deprogram those triggers and set more constructive reactions to anger, like talking it out, shouting within limits, staying within boundaries of self-respect etc.

2. The added bonus here is that we train the mind to relax and become calm so that we can access the unconscious mind and this results in the clients also learning to relax their mind and body.

Over three to five sessions the client is helped to develop a more constructive unconscious mindset which he then practices over a few more weeks as he is taught self-hypnosis.

Although at this stage it seems impossible to you that anything can help you develop control over that temper of yours because you have tried and tried helplessly over the years without much success, don’t worry.

In Hypnotherapy you are the one doing the work under expert guidance but the effect is more powerful as you will be under such a deep state of relaxation that your brain becomes more receptive than it is at the moment.